blog 5

After reading the book Autobiography of a Face written by Lucy Greatly, I have a better understanding about the troubles faced by a disable female, and how she could get support to conquer them.

First, it is known that to cure the disability requires a large amount of money to pay for the fees of variety of surgeries, medicines, and treatments. So that would form a serious burden to the patient’s family. The people in upper class and the rich could afford them easily while the one in lower class and the poor could not. As a result, the disabled patients in upper class and rich families could get better treatment and have more opportunities to be healed and the ones in lower class and poor families could not. However, the lives should equal, so the government should make a difference to help the poor disables. They should get financial aids and more welfare from insurance, especially the female disables. And the support from the government and society could bring better treatment to the disables, and make the lives equal among all the classes.

Second, the disabled females rely on the care from their family more than common such as Lucy. As described in the book, “my father would stop by after work to say hello when he wasn’t working too late, while my mother, who hated driving into the city, came in less frequently. Some of the other visiting parents, the ones who came in every day, felt sorry for my lack of visitors and sneaked me contraband food items” (Greatly 38). That shows Lucy really cares about the visit of her parents and hope they could come more frequently. As a disabled female, Lucy is lack of the sense of safety, so she is easy to feel she has been abandoned by the family. So the parents of disabled female should offer more attention to their children, more time to accompany with them and give them support, courage and care in both their physical and mental. The support and love from their own family could help the disabled females quite a lot.

Third, the disabled females have to face some own problems and no one could suffer the pain instead of them. They have to suffer the pain from every treatment, bear the sadness from the discrimination, the laughter and fear at their disabled part of body, such as Lucy’s jaw, and the difficulties to get a job or a sweetheart. If they could not face these difficulties with a proper and healthy attitude, they would be destroyed by serious psychological problems. And the only way to solve it is to have a strong heart. In the book, Lucy said, “One had to be good. One must never complain or struggle. One must never, under any circumstances, show fear and, prime directive above all, one must never, ever cry” (Greatly 30). Those words taught her to be tough with the pain in the future such as the surgeries, the fear about death, and the fear from others towards her jaw. So then she was able to live strongly and had a nice attitude towards her bitter life.

In a nutshell, a disabled female should be provided the financial aid from the government and the love from her family, and the most important one, is the strength from her own heart. Sometimes, the disability in mental is more terrible than the one in physical, so one could be disabled in physical, but could never be disabled in mental.